Some Loving Advice? Take The Damn Risk
- Jun 15, 2016
- 2 min read
If there's anything I've learned from recent tragedies, it's that tomorrow is not promised. So, suck it up, take the chance, and add some love to this world.
I'm a stubborn son of a bitch. Maybe it's my perseverance, maybe it's because I'm part Sicilian, maybe I'm just an asshole. But, when it comes to dating, when my foot is down, it's way down, and when my walls are up, they're way up.
And I know I'm not the only one.
So, the problem starts when I've decided to wait for a guy to text me - on a dating site, after a date, on a random Wednesday. And I will wait... and wait... and wait... and wait. Because the only way to prove you're into someone these days is to text them, right? And because if a guy's thinking about you, he'll text, right? And if his soul melts the moment he looks into your eyes, he'll text, RIGHT?
Well... no.
Ever have a day when it feels like you get called into a meeting every single time you pick up your phone? So has he. Ever forget your charger and then, shit, you've got 5% battery and you're on airplane mode? So has he. Ever been in a new relationship and you don't want bombard the other person with text messages even though you can't stop thinking about them and you're super giddy but you'll never let them know it? Guess what, so has he. But you know none of this, so you wait, and you wait, and you stomp your foot, and you wrack your brain about why you haven't heard him, and you group text your girlfriends about how boys are stupid, and you keep waiting.
Now, let's get real. What the fuck are you waiting for?
If there's anything I've learned from recent tragedies, it's that tomorrow is not promised. There are no guarantees. We do not have a definitive expiration date stamped on our feet. Yeah, sure, you love when you get a text from the person you like. But guess what, so does he. I mean, really, what's the worst thing that's going to happen? He doesn't respond? Oh darn. Look at that, you've discovered this guy is either a douche or isn't that into you, and now you know. You're welcome. Or hey, he could be feeling a little shy and you texting him first gives him the confidence to pursue and woo you. Or maybe you're the very welcome break in his shitty day. Text first. Plan the date. Go in for the kiss. And stop waiting.
Stop waiting for love to come and find you and take control of your relationships. Suck it up, take the chance, and add some love to this world. Because god knows we need it.
*Rules of Ungagement sends so much love to the families and the victims of the Orlando shooting at Pulse. Love is love is love, and we need more love in this world. We stand with you and beside you and we support the love of the LGBT community and the love of every human being, without exception.
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